How to Find your Centre
"Be the calm eye of the storm where nothing phases you, focus on your centre to remain balanced, let your life flow like a stream of wind" – Jay Woodman
We continue to live in times of uncertainty. Many of us have learned strategies for adapting to a new way of life and some of us have endured great hardship.
This week we would like to share a tool which will help you to create a sense of balance and calm when things in feel a little turbulent and beyond your control.
Do you ever experience mood swings? Have you noticed how some people appear to express a wider fluctuation of emotion than others? Often people who are capable of being very ‘up’ seem also capable of being very ‘down.’ Conversely, some people present as solid, stable and unwavering in most situations.
The way that we are feeling is undoubtedly influenced by our circumstances, however we do not all respond to events in the same way. Our emotions are coloured by what is going on with us internally.
Clearly, life affects mood; but to what degree we are influenced may vary from person to person. The distance our current mood is able to swing away from a balanced centre point, seems to be an individual thing.
Whist we can all think of people on either end of the spectrum, everyone appears to sit somewhere along it. Imagine it like a swinging pendulum. Some cover a greater distance, but all have to arrive back at a balanced equilibrium when the drama is over.
In difficult times, it is not easy to acknowledge where highs may balance lows, but there are usually things to be grateful for during adversity.
There is no joy without sorrow, no love without loss, no success without disappointment.
The greatest hardships teach the most valuable lessons, the highest rewards result from the most arduous efforts, and there are wonderful examples of human love, community spirit and sacrifice during a pandemic.
We regularly teach that self-awareness is necessary for resilience and this applies here too. Being aware of the cycles and rhythms of our own mood can be really useful.
We do not remain the same, even when our circumstances do.
If we are feeling low, we can accept that our frame of mind will change at some point. We will not feel like this forever. This is in line with the Buddhist teaching of impermanence. It can be of great comfort to us when we are suffering.
Additionally, if we know that we are feeling a little volatile, we can accept that big changes in mood take up a lot of energy and seek to be kinder to ourselves. We can also consciously question whether that energy is being well spent.
Whatever the highs and lows look like to us, there is always some kind of balance. The extent to which we fluctuate in mood may vary but, when we are aware that we are out of balance, we can consciously work towards finding equilibrium returning to our centre.
The following exercise is helpful when we have experienced high levels of emotion, whether positive or negative and we feel unsettled or unbalanced. It will allow you to build trust with the Self and to cultivate calm and balance within your life.
Find a quiet, comfortable place where you will not be disturbed
Sit, relaxed, with your spine straight
Take your awareness to your breathing as you have done before
The tidal in and out of your breath
Aligning with all the cycles
The patterns and symmetry
Of the Natural World
Remember that you are of the Earth
Rather than upon it
Now allow any feelings of turbulence that you have
To come gently to the surface
Anything that is unresolved
Or not understood
Anything that is taking up precious space
Acknowledge its presence
And sit with it in gratitude for the information
Understand that you are a unique child of the Universe
And begin to take a journey within yourself
To find your true centre
The most authentic part of the Self
The moment you came to earth
Something made you distinct from everyone else
Before you were labelled
Before you were recognised by others
Before you belonged and were accepted
You were unique and individual
Precious and gifted
Only one of you was made
In the whole of the cosmos
From material from the Heavens
Never to be repeated
Deep within you
At your very centre
Lies that spark of divine light
That you came with
The wisest version of your Self
The inner voice
Of simply knowing
Not from learning from others or experience
But from the possession of innate wisdom
That is yours and yours alone
It is the voice that you hear
When you give sound advice to others
The part that knows how to provide comfort
To a sick relative or a frightened child
The part of you that
Whatever the circumstances
Knows that everything will be alright
Because you came here with
And have always possessed
All The skills and resources
Knowledge and tools
Not only to survive
But to thrive during your time on Earth
Sit with that part of the Self
That was not sought or earned
While you were here
It is your gift
Sit with it in gratitude
Feel the connection
All is as it should be
You are in balance
When you connect with this part of the Self
You tap into your inner knowing
And you know without question
Quietly what is needed in all situations
You are whole
Now gently travel from your centre upwards and outwards
Through the necessary veils and layers of protection
That you wear throughout life
Until you find yourself here
In this situation
You can travel to your centre at any time to meet your true Self and achieve a state of calm balance throughout your day.
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