How to Light up the Darkness
Winter solstice, hiemal solstice or hibernal solstice also known as midwinter, occurs when one of the Earth’s poles has its maximum tilt away from the Sun - Wikipedia
In the northern hemisphere we are approaching the Winter Solstice. It is a time of stillness and turning inward for rest, repair, and reflection. It is also the Shortest Day. During the Winter Solstice, we see the light fall upon our part of Earth for the shortest time between sunrise and sunset.
Traditional celebrations around Winter Solstice centre around welcoming back the light, but there can be no light without darkness. Let us remember that the Shortest Day brings with it the Longest Night.
Before we welcome back the light, we can learn to honour the darkness.
What does the darkness mean for you? Hunger? Blindness? Ignorance? Isolation? Lack of direction? Fear? Cold?
Or Solitude? Regeneration? Repair? Rest? Tranquillity? Meditation? Inner wisdom? Healing?
In darkness we are afforded the opportunity to honour our Shadow.
And as with all opportunities, there is cause here for gratitude.
There is no day without night, heat without cold, or joy without sorrow. For the Universe to remain in balance, there must be equal amounts of all things. There is no negative or positive energy. There is only energy itself.
How we choose to perceive it is up to us.
The things we choose to see as positive are easily expressed and openly acknowledged and the things we mark as negative are often pushed into the shadows, disowned, and ignored. This is our interpretation of the Universe. Our unique model of the world. It is also reflected within us.
When we are born, we are whole. We come into being with an inherited genetic blueprint and unbound, limitless potential. This means that we are born with equal amounts of all things. We then choose which parts of us we will polish and nurture and which parts we will disown and put away.
These choices are made in response to how we are received by the world and those in our life, especially during childhood. This is because we are hardwired to survive. For a child, survival is synonymous with approval and acceptance. We will usually grow up to display and take ownership of those parts of the Self that are approved of by others and disregard those that are not.
Those parts of us that are put away become our Shadow.
Honouring our darkness or Shadow is one of the most valuable practices in the quest for personal enlightenment. Shadow work can be uncomfortable but offers profound personal insight and exceptional growth.
How do we recognise our Shadow?
When we are uncomfortably provoked by the behaviour of someone else, we are seeing our own Shadow reflected. The more uncomfortable we are, the deeper we have buried that part of the Self.
For example: we draw back in revulsion when we witness cruelty and abuse, theft, and violence in its worst forms, presented to us by the Universe. This does not mean that we ourselves have that kind of appalling activity hiding in the wings. However, in the right circumstances, we are all capable of the cruelty, manipulation and selfishness that this sort of behaviour requires.
When we witness it, we feel repulsed because it reflects our Shadow. When we engage our powers of observation, we can learn to recognise when this has happened and sit with it.
Observing the Shadow is the first step. This is often enough to affect positive change. When we acknowledge it, the discomfort is reduced. We can take this further by learning that those parts of the Self are ok. We can learn to accept them. By doing this we are honouring the Whole Self rather than only the parts that are in the light.
Considering that when someone’s behaviour uncomfortably provokes us, can provide fertile ground for growth and progress, is a Superpower!
As we move towards Winter Solstice in the northern hemisphere, we can sit with the darkness and once again meditate on what we wish to let go of and what we wish to take with us into the light.
As the Winter Solstice approaches, take steps to prepare yourself, not just for celebrating the return of the light, but for honouring the blessings of darkness in the night sky, the Universe, and the Self.
Begin after dusk or before sunrise. Find a quiet, comfortable space where you will not be disturbed, and you can safely turn off the lights. You can furnish it with soft cushions and warm blankets. You can burn sage, incense, or essential oils if you wish. Place unlit candles and matches within your reach ready to for you light up the darkness.
Make a cocoon of your surroundings
Sit in your cocoon in darkness with your spine straight
Take your awareness to the sensation of your breathing
Drawing in and releasing out
In cycles and rhythms
As the day turns to night
And night to day
Summer to winter
Winter to summer
Tune in to the silent heartbeat of the Universe
As it responds to your intentions
In the darkness
Sit and listen
Consider first, the physical Earthly darkness
What gifts does it offer you?
In the darkness we are spared the intrusion and interruption
Of all the varied stimulations of daytime activity and chatter
And given the grace to hear
The wisdom of our own hearts
Consider now your own Shadow
disregarded and unwanted
Harsh and offensive when seen against the brightness of sunlight
Or electrical office illumination
But easier to coax forward in the gentle darkness
Easier to see
Sit with your Shadow
As your companion
Give it space to be
Understand that the unloved and unwanted parts of the Self
Need to be heard
For us to become whole
And fully loved
Consider the power that the Universe has
To reveal our Shadow to us
Reflected in the actions of others
Is this not a Gift?
Feel the gratitude invoked by all the gifts of the Universe
Including this one
Allow it to come to the surface
And extend it outwards into the Cosmos
Sit in silence now
Aware of the darkness
But free of thought
Now consider the returning of the light
Which old patterns of behaviour
And limiting beliefs no longer serve you
Know that you can release these now
Into the darkness
To be transmuted
What parts of the Self do you wish to be illuminated?
What intentions do you wish to receive the light?
This time around the sun?
Know that you can take these with you
To be seen with clarity
And warmed into life
As the light returns
With the next sunrise
Light your candles and sit with the new light
Allow yourself to feel deep gratitude for every opportunity
To begin again