How to Reframe Core Beliefs through Affirmation
Updated: Jun 20
“We believe what we tell ourselves”
Affirmation – The action or process of affirming something - Oxford dictionary
Along with the dawn of the New Age and the evolution of the concept of ‘Self-Care,’ the word ‘affirmation’ too, has taken a new meaning. In the fields of psychotherapy and ‘self-help,’ we find ‘affirmations’ discussed in plural as a tool that can be used to reframe our thoughts and more importantly our ‘core beliefs.’
Have you ever practised ‘affirmations?’
Looking in the mirror and telling yourself how great you are?
The mere thought of this makes people roll their eyes. The words ‘conceited, big headed, self-centred and narcissistic’ may well be running through your head as you read.
You may be tempted to stop reading now, feeling that this type of work is not for you
Positive affirmations are a metaphorical gold mine as a resilience tool.
They are free, quick and easy.
You can tailor them individually
· Academic achievement
· Our health/lifestyle choices
· Problem solving
· Over thinking
The research tells us that positive self-affirmation in the form of writing or thinking about our core values improves our memory and inhibitory processes. Increased inhibition helps by reducing the impact of things that might affect our ability to do an activity for example, fear. This with improved memory, results in enhanced performance, increased self-control and ultimately better achievement.
Unlike rumination and negative overthinking, positive self-affirmation works by motivational substitution. Basically, our affirmation is more important that the negative rumination as a process.
Affirmations also reduce the effect of any psychological trauma that threatens how we value the Self, (e.g. when we are devalued by others through, racism, gender bias etc.)
Self-Affirmation is about reinforcing our own core values.
Our core beliefs have developed over our lifetime. They are a product of our experiences. This process begins in our childhood.
Most of us have some negative core beliefs. They can develop directly as a product of negative experiences and trauma.
They can however develop even if you had a wonderful childhood.
Below are some examples of childhood situations which, especially when repetitive, may negatively affect belief about the Self.
· Being told you are horrible, rude, naughty (what was meant was that your behaviour was horrible, rude, naughty)
· Being criticized for behaviours which reflect or express your individuality (usually because your behaviour has triggered something in the adult’s own psyche that needs acceptance)
· Having a sibling chosen above you
· Being shown that you are not liked by those around you
· Being prepared for failure, for example being advised not to get your hopes up before an exam or course (this is usually done to protect us but can often lead a belief that we are not capable of achieving.)
As we increase our self-awareness to improve resilience, we may identify a number of our own negative core beliefs and can often link them to our experiences. They can usually, however be distilled down two common examples:
1. I am not good enough/worthy
2. I am broken/defective in some way/I am not whole
Once these core beliefs are formed, they bed in. The human mind likes, above most things, to be right. We spend time looking for evidence in all situations that supports them. We reinforce them over and over.
One of the ways we do this is self-affirmation.
“I’m so stupid” (not good enough/defective)
“I can’t believe I have done that again” (defective)
“I am ugly” (defective)
“I am rubbish” (not good enough/defective)
“I’ll never get that promotion” (not good enough)
“I’ll never find a healthy relationship” (both)
We have discussed both the benefits of positive self-affirmation and the damage we can do with negative ones.
Now we can cultivate the habit of using positive affirmations as a tool for improving wellbeing and increasing resilience.
But there is a problem.
When we have identified which negative core beliefs we wish to counteract or reframe and chosen the appropriate affirmation for the job; we find that there is an almost unbearable level of discomfort in physically saying them about the Self. This is because of the very process of their becoming embedded in the first place.
Negative core beliefs are present as a result of learning uncomfortable lessons. None of the childhood examples we used above would have felt empowering or positive when experienced, in fact they would have been unpleasant and attached to negative emotions. This is because they were the negative experiences that lead to the negative beliefs. There will, of course, have been positive ones as well – but it is the negative ones that we wish to reframe – and so we must
address that discomfort!
To learn more about reframing, see ‘How to Rise – A Complete Resilience Manual’ from Sheldon Press. It takes you on a journey of self-discovery sharing over 60 tools and techniques, including meditations with purpose, visualisation exercises and practical tools to help improve your mental wellbeing and reduce anxiety. 'How to Rise' helps you to take control of your life
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