Manage your Anxiety
Our anxiety does not come from thinking about the future, but from wanting to control it
– Kahlil Gibran
Anxiety is a well-used word.
We all experience some degree of anxiety.
The word itself has been so much used and defined that it has become a ‘thing.’
Something that happens to us. Something over which we have no control.
We have said before that fear keeps us safe. It is what makes us look before we cross the road and it can motivate us to get to a deadline on time or study hard for an exam.
When, however, we allow ourselves to become overcome with fearful thoughts which lead to negative emotions and behaviours, we damage ourselves.
When we do this, we suffer. We feel stuck, and powerless to make positive changes. This is anxiety.
Recognising that we are actually capable of choosing what we think about, feel and do is a very powerful shift in mind-set.
Chronic anxiety is also a problem in itself.
It can be present with no apparent cause and can cause great suffering.
When it presents, unpleasant gut feelings appear to come from nowhere and can invoke negative thinking which, in turn, magnifies those negative emotions and leads to either destructive behaviour or further negative thinking.
We have seen many people in this situation and have both struggled with it ourselves.
Some people with chronic anxiety have had terrible trauma.
There are others who feel that their life is great and that their anxiety is unwarranted. This often leads to feelings of shame and guilt which compounds the situation.
Those who suffer with chronic anxiety can start to believe that this is part of who they are. Pre-determined and present in their blueprint.
Many years ago, Chrissie was attending a ‘Mind, Body and Spirit Fair.’ She noticed a woman sitting quietly at a small, undecorated table.
She was a healer. She was not selling anything; she was simply offering her wisdom with a bowel of cards.
The healer pulled a card and directed Chrissie to recall a time when she had been held back by her need for approval.
This prompted a deep conversation that culminated in Chrissie describing herself as an ‘over-thinker.’ She had always attributed this as a root cause of her own anxiety and had accepted it as part of her make-up.
The healer’s response to this struck her deeply.
“Stop saying that. Every time you say it, you drive it deeper. It is NOT who you are. It is just something you have been doing up until now.”
Chrissie left with a new perspective. It prompted her to do some inner work. She realised that her over-thinking was a choice.
Overthinking is most often negative and usually repetitive. It leads to anxiety. It is a behaviour that we can choose whether to engage in or not.
Anxiety is not a ‘thing’ it is a series of negative thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
This week’s tool is a Five-Point Rescue Plan for Anxiety.
We have created an extremely effective plan for managing anxiety.
It contains a choice of tools and techniques to help with the symptoms of anxiety and to tackle the underlying negative thinking that drives it.
The article we wrote about Five-Point Rescue Plans describes the process of creating your own plan in more detail. You can create a plan for any problem.
To show our appreciation, we are sending this tool FREE to all who have joined our community.
As an extra ‘thank you’ we are also giving away 2 copies of “The Five-Point Rescue Plan” by Dr Karen Forshaw and Chrissie Mowbray, to celebrate the anniversary of its publication.
To receive your FREE Five-Point Rescue Plan for Anxiety, please leave your email address and Resilient Practice will send it to you along with two audio guided meditations and a Gap Analysis Tool to measure your current resilience.
You will also be placed into the prize draw to win a copy of the book.
Please share this site with others – our Resilience Toolkit is for everyone. Thank you